Nettie: Your Emotional Blog Advisor
Dear Nettie,
My blog has been going for some time now but I just ran into a problem that really bothers me.What do I do when someone has commented on a post but has used this comment for a political purpose, and one that I am against! I don’t want to shut this person out of my blog just for political reasons, but I still don’t feel comfortable anymore with some of the blog posts that I am doing now. I worry that what I say will be attacked again, and can’t be sure of myself in my postings.
Please tell me how to get my voice back, and what advice you might have for dealing with this kind of comment.
Laryngitis?
Dear Laryngitis -
get your voice back? You just used it!
Advice#1: Don’t make yourself think something’s missing when it ain’t. It’s a cousin of Advice #2: Don’t mix up “can’t” with “won’t” or “I’m afraid to”. You know, this happens all the time. People come and tell me at length that they “can’t” talk to their boss, accountant, wife, whatever, and then they take another 15 minutes telling me what it is that they can’t tell them. Well, duh, you just showed me that you “can” talk, and that you know what you want to say.
Advice #3: “I don’t want to shut this person out of my blog just for political reasons …” You don’t want to shut this person out? Don’t then!
Advice #4: “… but I still don’t feel comfortable anymore with some of the blog posts that I am doing now.”
Okay, now we’re getting to the nitty-gritty.
You don’t feel sure of yourself. Darling, if one comment can make you feel that way, then you’ve had a problem with self confidence to begin with. What can you do about that? Check out what Nancy has to say on her Unconditional Confidence site (love the “Diva” tips); also Urban Monk’s piece where he connects self confidence with self respect.
Advice #5: “I worry that what I say will be attacked again, and can’t be sure of myself in my postings.”
This is where you get a chance to make up your mind. You know, if you don’t like being attacked, you can completely disable comments, you can moderate comments, or you can throw out comments you don’t like. It’s your blog, baby, and you better be sure of that!
Advice #6: (And that’s it, I can’t give everything away for free plus I gotta get going, Paris is having me over for a bit of champagne before supper) So you say you don’t want to shut this person out. Let me ask you, do you really not want to? Or are you just trying to be nice? People who always want to be nice don’t always have a loud voice. So what’s it gonna be? Be always nicey-nice or have a voice?
Waddaya think? Gimme a shout!
Nettie
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